Aging

Editor’s Note:   We welcome a new writer to our staff.  Kathy Kennedy Jordan will be posting her thoughts on various aspects of her life – and ours.
Aging!
My life as a crazy old person has changed dramatically over the last two years!  I find putting fears and issues- and having the ability to laugh at life’s jokes on the aging process- helps a little.  So, once upon a time, I was young and I could sleep! My head would hit the pillow and I was out like a light.  I would easily enter into a peaceful,  restful, wonderful night’s sleep which would rudely be  interrupted by an annoying alarm clock.  So in my retirement, one of the things I looked forward to the most was a life void of alarm clocks.  I could always sleep!  And then suddenly,  I couldn’t.
Phase one of retirement was glorious.  I still felt young, energetic and because I had a father still dancing and golfing in his 90’s, I had high hopes of longevity without any handicaps.  My mom died in her sleep at 72, which put me on borrowed time but, since I was always a Daddy’s girl, I hoped I’d take after good old Dad. People who know me know I am the eternal optimist. And then I had a stroke, and reality – which is seldom your friend – smacked me in the face.  I found out I was not a wannabe Peter Pan after all.  I wasn’t going to live forever, anymore than Wendy could sew on Peter Pan’s shadow.  My new reality included some minor challenges. Yes, I’m old, I get it now.  We are all going to die eventually.  But, more importantly to me is, I can’t sleep!

I’m learning terms like “insomnia and oversleep.”  Oversleep is when an insomniac, like me, finally falls asleep and can sleep 10, 12 or more hours at a time, and then, after all that sleep has trouble waking up completely.  Your brain is foggy, you are uncoordinated and are left feeling exhausted.  I was born at noon.  So, I have always joked that God intended for me to be  a night person.  My inner wake up clock doesn’t respond to “a.m.”   Everyone I know, and want to be with,  is up in walking, playing pickle ball and enjoying the first half of their day which I routinely miss.

My hubby is up at 5am.  Sometimes because of insomnia, 5am is when I am finally able to fall to sleep.  I find that I am at my wittiest, and have some of my greatest ideas while staring at the ceiling trying to count sheep.  Daryl has flashing colorful stars decorating our ceiling and lulling ocean sounds, crashing waves and sometimes the pitter, patter of rain drops, all of which advertisers guarantee will help anyone fall to sleep.  All are thoughtful ideas, but unfortunately, he is the only one snoring.

It’s amazing how quickly the mind travels when you can’t sleep.  I keep searching for that “off” button that travels through childhood, adulthood fears and anxieties.  The other night, I completely solved the immigration problem and was facetiously working on my next project, global warming.  I know, I’m not a genius, but often times, I wonder how many great ideas come to people when they are running out of sheep to count.  My brain goes so fast,  from one subject to another that I actually got up to grab a notebook and pen so I could write down some of my ideas.  The next afternoon, not morning,  when I finally woke up, I enthusiastically picked up my note pad to read about my many extraordinary theories solving important issues.  To my great disappointment, not only couldn’t I read my chicken scratching, my notes were those of a sleep deprived idiot.

But I did learn something valuable.  We all have issues with the aging process.  But the ability to laugh at ourselves, is not only necessary, it is healing.  Talking about some of the insignificant fears of aging and the multiple problems we all face does make the aches, pains and issues a little less burdensome.  We are all in this together.  The ability to laugh at ourselves and respect everyone’s aging issues is our great connection. We can all be grouches, happy, negative, gracious, positive, giving or selfish depending on the way we feel each and every day we wake up.  Every day above ground is a good day.

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